Hello
beautiful!
I
hope you have been enjoying the sun as much as I have, and if it's
not summer-y where you are right now, I hope you have been able to
keep your mood sunny nonetheless! The sun will shine again before you
know it, there can't be darkness without light!
Above
you see one of the many encouraging photos that float around the
Internet, and today I want to dig a bit deeper into these kind of
photos/drawings/graphics/texts/whatever floats your boat. I think,
and correct me if I'm wrong, that a lot of teenagers/young adults
these days expect a lot of other people. Maybe a bit too much. They
think that their lives will be saved by their own prince charming,
who will ride into their lives when they need him the most and will
change everything into a whole new, better place.
I
hate to break it to you, but this is not going to happen. There
probably will be some people who will have their fairytale life, but
most of us are doomed to make it on our own. I don't mean that you
will never find someone special, who will make you feel beautiful and
cares about you, no matter what. What I'm trying to say is that you
are the boss about your own
happiness. You don't need someone to lick your wounds and tell you
it's going to be okay. You don't have to have someone by your side to
stop feeling lonely. I believe that too many people nowadays lay
their faith into someone else's hands, and this saddens immensely.
Instead of putting hope into other -sometimes imaginary- people, you
should try to put that hope into yourself! You are a strong and very
capable person, who has been breathing, walking and learning without
help for so many years. You can make life as hard and as simple as
you want to, and most importantly, you can change. It
is not necessary for a stranger to walk onto your path to make your
life a better place. The start of a happier and more fulfilling life
lays with you, yourself et toi.
The
main question, though, is how. It all sounds easy as pie when you're
reading this, and -luckily- most of the time it really isn't that
hard. The biggest obstacle is starting to believe in yourself. Having
faith in your own choices, your own happiness and your
own definition of happiness is
something a lot of people -me included- struggle with from time to
time, if not all the time. Everywhere around us, in films, books,
series, and on the Internet in general, we are told that we need
someone else to be happy. We need either a boyfriend, a best friend,
or some kind of supernatural gift, to define happiness for us, when
actually, we just have to be as true to ourselves as we can.
Who
knows what “having a good time” means to you? To me, it means
having a nice cup of tea and a good book, or having the summer air
blow into my room as I am typing this down. I don't need a fancy
party with lots of booze to feel content. If you do like to go crazy
on the dance floor, however, that is great as well! The key point is
that you have to decide for yourself what you really enjoy, and what
you think you like but actually hate, because other people seem to be
enjoying it. Happiness comes from within, not from the people around
you. Friends and family can be a source of happiness, that's a given
fact, but the essence of happiness, contentedness and comfortability
comes from knowing yourself, and not being afraid to be happy in your
own unique way.
What
do you think is essential for happiness? What do you do when you feel
sad, lonely or fed up with the world? Share your thoughts and
opinions with me, I'd love to read and learn from you!
Be
true to who you are, you are perfect in your own way. I will see you very soon!
Jane
xxx
